the walls of our house, I often times look at my husband and I and wonder, who
are those two love birds?
fewer gray hairs. We practically look like babies. Where did the time go? Where
did we go? We used to be fun and wild, crazy, and free. Did he change? Did I
year and as I reflect on the past years, I see how our lives constantly transform.
ways and in some ways I miss her a bit.
self a thing or two or three or are you glad you had to figure it out the hard
struggle, “You’re not the guy or girl that I married.”
thinking Hallelujah, and others may be holding onto resentment or bitterness
toward the fact that your spouse is not the same person.
couples do, in our first years of really settling in together. Things become
quite different; kids come along, the daily grind grinds in, and life becomes well,
life. But that man I fell in love with is now my best friend.
What Happens? Those two people that often got married and were head-over-heels in love,
start to change.
lives but some people are saying, Change? Me!?!
same person or I am not the one that changed.”
when we were seniors in high school. We were not the same when we began college
or our careers as we are five or ten years later.
environment and life around them. It can be amazing, you can become a better
person, or it can be detrimental and you can go in the opposite direction.
forward to new things and new phases, and praise God for renewed mercies every
is better now than when it began. My husband and I have grown together and
created a bond grounded in faith. With the grace and mercy of our Heavenly Father,
we are not only surviving but we absolutely enjoy each other.
that is, what I believe, key to any marriage. It is grounded in faith and held
together by a foundation in a God that is bigger than all our issues, all our
changes, and all our finicky ways we bring to our relationship.
relationship, where you won’t change or the other person won’t change, you will
come into struggles. Change is essential. Just as you get up and change your
clothes everyday (hopefully), you have to change you attitudes and behaviors to
work together and that is okay.
is the reliance on a GOD that doesn’t change. He is eternally constant. He is
constant that we can rely on to never change. His promises are the same. His
expectations of us are the same, day to day.
the big picture, in fact He sees the whole picture. When we see only our day to
day or our past, He knows our future. He knows what He has in store for us, for
our families, for our marriages, and for our friendships.
years. Every time I have a struggle it comes down to this, Asking God to change
friends, spouse, children, acquaintances, and people I met in my everyday life,
God has required my submission.
have realized, I cannot change people, but He can. What I can do is ask a God
who is bigger than any situation I have ever faced to
to make me more like Him. It is not always easy, but often times, a
pouring our problems before the Lord.
you problems before the Lord?
102:27-28 says: But YOU are always the
same; YOU will live forever. The children of your people will live in security.
Their children’s children will thrive in your presence.”
So you can put your hope and faith and trust in Him.
So as you face your next struggle or next encounter that
may not be a pleasant one, challenge yourself in this way, ask God, to make a
real change, but ask Him to make it in you.
Please leave comments below and read from others about their journeys.